Women - How Safe? Contd...

First of all I want to thank all my readers for the wonderful response for my previous post Women - How Safe? Guys I totally enjoyed it. Some readers supported me and some even went to the extent of tagging me as Taliban! gosh...I seriously wonder if my thoughts were mis-interpreted. First up let me clear the air on this. I am not anti-women and I have never opposed the freedom of women's dress code.

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                         Secondly, I said provocative dressing was one of the reasons which may lead to some sick men misbehaving with women. I never told that provocative dressing is the ONLY reason. Lets accept the fact yaar .... if a naked man or woman walks in front of you suddenly what will be your reaction? yes some will scream and close there eyes with their hand, and I bet most of them will make way for their vision between the fingers to see the naked person - like how in our childhood we used to play hide and seek, remember? Same rule applies to semi naked dressing also. 

              Exposure of body parts does provoke reaction among people both men or women. Now the only question is how people react to this? Many will be surprised, in a sense of shock/embarrassment and some may even enjoy the proceedings. A few really go out of control. Mostly it is men in this case, I accept it completely, but at the same time we need to accept the fact that this arrogance or like most of you call the "need to exercise power over women" is present in varying levels in men, thats a natural trait of being a man. If it is in minimal/optimal level the society may tag him as gentleman, if this arrogance is absent then the society may turn the tables and ask him "are you a man?"

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                Finally we have men who have this arrogance in extreme level - criminals/rapists etc. If a women goes in front of such sick men with a low neck top (Rakhi Sawant sHtyle) exposing cleavage deliberately or wearing a tight fit low hip pants is definitely inviting for trouble. It is a sick behaviour  to misbehave with women, like I said in the previous post. These people are sick and they need treatment. It is a fact that we have a lot of sick people like these in our society.  So how will you deal with it? The best possible way in my opinion will be to be safe than sorry. For the sake of these sick people we cannot blame the entire male gender as unfair right? I will never say all men are good or all women are good. There is an animal in each one of us, some tame it politely and some express it arrogantly.
                       
              Yes! In India we have a patriarchal society. Its a fact lets accept it. Because that is how it has evolved for the past couple of centuries. And now we are slowly trying to adapt a more neutral society, and it will be good if our society gives way for these new thoughts and new outlook towards women. If we look into the facts we can find that this adaptation is happening only in cities and that too not completely. Now for this neutral society to evolve, it will take a lot of time, may be generations. All of a sudden you can't blame that men in India are not giving freedom to women! A good civilized society is what we require and for that to evolve education needs to be our top priority.

                  Our society has definitely changed a lot, from the days when we had the cruel ritual of "Sati Pratha" to the present day where women have become Astronauts, President or Top Bureaucrats. But the change is limited only to a few section of society. We are in the transition period, don't expect all our men to behave like "good" English men, its quite impossible all of a sudden.

             Thats all I have to say on this. Please keep the comments pouring in! I know like the previous post I will have a lot of criticism to take on this too :) bring it on people!

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Women - How Safe?

After a longtime, I happened to read one of my favourite blogger's post. Her name is Purba Ray, the topic  she wrote on was "Fall Of The Feminine". The points written were so good that made me think a lot. I have been waiting for such a topic to write on for a longtime now. This blog post is a reply to one of the thoughts of my inspirational blogger friend. The thought is on should women have complete freedom in choosing her attire. Yes! women should have all the freedom in the world to wear whatever they want. But the point still remains to choose wisely  the right attire as per the society, place they are living in. Now in a society where women are not encouraged to wear low hips and low necks with good intentions, there we can't blame if someone really breaches the rule and falls into trouble by themselves.Now why the society implied such anti-women rule is what some of my friends ask often.

A society where men grew up seeing women who are so polite, adorable in traditional Indian attire like the saree, salwar kammez etc., if suddenly they see a girl dressed like a baywatch model then you must think of what essentially their thought process will build up to. Its something like you show food to a starving animal. In developed countries where men grew up seeing women dressed up just the way they do in jeans or shirts or other comfortably short dresses, it doesn't create a big ripple at all. It is essential that the society grows in all aspects. Yes I accept it is 21st century, women have all the right to look modern, but being modern doesn't essentially mean exposing the body.

Lets not at all dig into the argument that men are bad or women are good vice-versa. Lets try to simplify things. Each gender is unique, men are men and women are women. Lets never ever confuse that. The human race has evolved from animals, both men and women show their animal instincts at some point of time. A human being who is not in proper state of mind due to various reasons will definitely react in an unexpected manner for any provocations in front of him or her. A person who does not know how to behave politely with the opposite sex is really sick and sick people need treatment. Now you cant go and fight with sick people if they do something wrong, or blame a particular gender based on such stereotypes. Our current society needs to evolve and grow to a large extent until we eradicate or atleast take efforts to decline the sick people in our society. So the need of the hour is trying to not to provoke the sick by provocative behaviour.

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The media, government and the court of law should do their best in controlling and educating the sick. Blaming a gender is not going to help to control the menace. No human being is bad, every kid that is born in this world is innocent. The circumstances that they grow in shape their character, we have to accept that. If we become the victim of any undesirable sick action then we only need to introspect ourselves that in what way we became a medium of provocation for the sick? Your anger against the sick is gonna serve no good. Every human being has the right to be proud of himself/herself but it is not necessary to blame the opposite gender in order to feel special about oneself.

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Diwali with a twist

This time my Diwali celebrations were special. Usually I wear the hat of a couch potato mercilessly molesting my TV remote to switch between channels during the Diwali holiday. Today as part of bhumi, I spent the day with some 40 plus kids from Ramakrishna Mission children's home. The volunteers - including me:-) had planned some great activities for the kids, mmm we had a balloon stuffing game, musical chair and many other games for which I have to coin a name henceforth. More than us the kids were excited and jubilant after-all its always good to celebrate in groups. The activities kicked in and after a point of time we volunteers lost control of the situation, the kids were at the peak of the excitement - running, jumping, laughing etc etc. I was new to this kind of an atmosphere, I mean with a lot of new friends around. I was a bit reserved I don't know why but I can always compliment myself by saying "it happens because I am new". This is something that I wanna overcome, it takes me a lot of time to get along with people. Hopefully I think a new chapter of life is in process.
         Ok now back to the celebrations - some of the volunteers had brought in some sweets and snacks (Diwali special) for the kids. The distribution kicked in.. It was wonderful to spot that wonderful smile among those innocent faces. The event came to an end with the kids bursting crackers. Reached home, had a small nap..woke up to a powerful explosion - fireworks in the neighbourhood were at full swing. Peeped out of the door and saw my doggie Zia trembling in fear..hugged her, didnt have much options than to comfort her amidst nonstop cracker marathon outside. Suddenly a sigh of relief...the rain gods heard my cry it seems! nature pissed on to the mad crowd of people bursting crackers - it rained for some 20 minutes or so...finally peace prevailed! Ok folks so let me take leave now, will catch up with you all with some more adventures soon bye :)

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Happy life to you all

Happy life to you all :) this is how I am gonna start my blog post today. I was kind of lost with an uninteresting challenging part of my life for the past few months. I guess you could have made up that conclusion seeing my frequency of blogging. Sometimes we take life so serious that we forget to live it. That's the message I learnt from the recent adventures of my life. The festive season has kicked in and I am writing this post on a Diwali eve..awe... wonderful, festivals really add colours to life isn't it? All the way many a times I've been telling many people that happiness is a purely a choice but at times I do forget it for myself. This is one part of my life that I have managed to take some bold decisions. One among them is to be a part of truly gifted special children's life who are socially restricted with lack of choices. Confusing? Yes I have joined Bhumi a youth volunteer program which focuses on educating and empowering underprivileged kids.
         Life has taken serious turns now. I am a mentor for two of such wonderful kids. A moment of truth to look upon myself and mold myself to be an inspiration to these kids. Life is really wonderful at times isn't it? The choices it gives us are simply superb and the key is always to utilize the right ones. I have decided to bring upon change to somebody's life on a serious note. A commitment to spend some time with this kids every week with all the possible care and love for them.
               As I said, happiness is always a choice I am trying my best to make that choice amongst all the possible challenges in life. Tomorrow we have planned to celebrate Diwali with the kids, I am very excited about this. Anyways I will keep you posted on this. Hello world here I come! 

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